While it may seem funny (or even desirable), dating a sex addict can be a real threat to a relationship. Do you suspect that’s your situation? Read here.
Did you know that it’s estimated that anywhere from 12 million to 30 million people in the United States have a sex addiction?
Sex addiction is widely misunderstood in popular culture, so much so that some people may not be able to recognize the signs of addiction. Many promising relationships have ended because wives and girlfriends have discovered their boyfriend’s or husband’s sex problems.
If you notice any of these signs, seek out a sex addiction treatment center for men so your loved one can get the help they need.
Excessive amounts of masturbation and pornography use
There’s nothing wrong with occasionally masturbating or looking at pornography. It’s estimated that 40 million people view pornography in the United States each day. But some sex addicts can do both activities to an unhealthy degree.
They could spend hours a day looking at pornography. Some people may spend hundreds or thousands on pornography and cam shows, and many will hide their spending activity from their spouses. Others may not be able to have sex without viewing pornography.
Frequent masturbation could be a sign of sex addiction. They may choose to masturbate after they’ve had sex, or could have trouble at work because they’re taking breaks to masturbate.
He’s sexually aggressive
Some people have more dominant personalities in bed, but men with sex addictions can take this behavior to the extreme.
They may push you to do things you aren’t comfortable with or have a wide array of sexual fetishes they need you to fulfill.
Others may demand sex regardless of how their partner feels. When they’re denied sex, they tend to pout or guilt their partner.
Your partner may also neglect your sexual needs while he makes sure to satisfy his. You may feel less like you’re having sex with another person and more like a tool for his pleasure.
He has a history of unstable relationships
Sometimes relationships just fizzle out, but a long line of short relationships with other women can be a red flag.
Sex addicts tend to struggle with long-term committed relationships. Their inability to commit to one person sexually is often what ends their relationship.
It also isn’t uncommon for some addicts to refer to sexual partners as “relationships”. His last girlfriend that lasted 1 month may have just been someone he was having casual sex with.
You keep catching him in lies
Your boyfriend swears he went to bed last night at 11, but you heard him typing on his computer at 1 AM.
Your husband claims he recently spent $75 on a business lunch, but when you take a look at your monthly statement you see that the money was spent at a sex shop.
A lot of sex addicts go through great lengths to hide their behavior from their partners.
Dishonesty is never good in a relationship. Sometimes it can be a sign of sex addiction.
You think he’s a sex addict
Sometimes it’s best to trust your gut in these situations.
You probably have never had a partner you suspected had a sex addiction. The fact that you’re even thinking about your partner having a sex addiction is a huge red flag.
Don’t try to convince yourself that you’re overreacting. Where there’s smoke, there’s fire.
What about you?
Have you had to deal with a husband or boyfriend with a sex addiction? How did you get through it? Tell us your story in our comments section.